Dear Abby: My cousin abandoned her child – and is looking for ‘full support’

Dear abby: My cousin (more like a sister) has made some extremely fried choices and about elections over the past year. After she had her second child, she left her husband and began to see a series of men of the border line. She is now in the process of signing full custody of children in her ex-husband and buying a home abroad impulsively.

What I am seeing challenging is, she will not accept anything less than “full support” from her family and friends. She cut her sister at the point that she would not attend her wedding, because she said it was time for her to talk to a professional about her mental health. She has not spoken to her mother in a month either.

I don’t want to stop it because I think her needs help and is experiencing something very challenging. But she is trying to manipulate her ex-husband to give her more money alimony as she runs with a man who abuses publicly in public.

I think she is a danger to her, but if I say as much, she will remove me too. Should I stay in her life so she can help when she inevitably needs her? Or should I take a tougher attitude? – Concerned cousin in Oregon

Cousin: Tell your cousin who loves dearly, but she is making some serious mistakes, and you are afraid of her future. It’s the truth. Announce that looking at her strange heyers from her family has been painful to you, and if things don’t go out as she hopes, you will be there for her. Then return until the dust is placed.

Dear abby: For the last 20 years, we own a comfortable home some blocks from the ocean. With a main home and a back home, we can sleep as much as 11 or 12 people. We have always welcomed our children, their unconditional grandchildren and friends. They, on the other hand, have been judgmentable to accept our offer. Since we are now in years, work is getting difficult for us.

Five years ago, one of our grandchildren married a difficult family. As we are loved for our new nephew, he insists on bringing his parents, sister and their family dog ​​to our home. They are loud and not indecent. There is a difference of thinking between us if we can or should refuse to continue to welcome them. Your thoughts? – tired at birth

Dear: For a guest to bring other people (and their pet!) Without first clearing it with the host is extremely rude. If the host shows the reluctance, for the guest to insist it is even worse. I’m sorry you didn’t plunge into the bud at first. Explain your nephew that you are not getting any newest and waiting for the whole family has received you a fee, that is why you WILL Be by limiting the invitation only to your family members in the future.

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